The Paper and I were two of the first people to arrive. We were greeted
at the front door by Eeyore and a very friendly cat named Iggy, who
happily hung out near me all night so that I could pet her.
Another guest was in the middle of a text conversation, aggravation
on her face. We soon learned that her boyfriend had just broken up with
her over text message, and for the flimsiest of excuses. Eeyore and
I assured her that she was better off without anyone who would pull
such a stunt.
Our hostess made me a fantastic blended drink consisting of orange
juice, some Parrot Bay coconut rum, and vanilla ice cream. Because it
was a bit strong and also because it was a bit rich, it was the only
alcohol I had that night.
She also offered us appetizers of grapes, strawberries and some mini
puff pastries filled with spinach and cheese. We chatted in the living
room while the other guests arrived. One by one, they filtered in until
we had a total of about seven. Three of them had worked together (although
only one still worked at that place of employment), while one guest
was a neighbor. A final guest, like The Paper and I, had initially met
Eeyore through Kapow.
After we'd had appetizers, Eeyore served dinner. There were two main
courses: a chicken dish from a crock pot, and cheese lasagna. In addition,
there were green beans, peas, and a salad, which made me very happy.
Nothing adds to my dining enjoyment more than colorful fruits and vegetables.
Over dinner, Eeyore and her neighbor regaled us with stories of the
cul de sac soap opera. It was like watching an episode of Desperate
Housewives (except without the affairs). From people arguing over
parking spaces and cigarette butts, to somebody running over someone
else's mailbox and leaving huge divots in the lawn, to the strange neighbor
who walks around the cul de sac obsessively, in sweat pants and high
heels. This woman complains about everything but has been spotted surreptitiously
weeding for a recently-widowed neighbor.
Eeyore's dinner guest had her own story, which would be suitable for
any health-care town hall meeting. Her boyfriend is now living with
her and her sons. It's not something they planned to do so soon, but
he was an independent contractor who had an accident, smashing up his
left arm. With no medical insurance and no one to care for him, he is
depending on her to provide shelter and care.
"That's why we need health-care reform," I said. The statement
hung in the air, unanswered. This was not a night for talking politics.
As a group, we also shared stories about weddings, which started because
Eeyore's brother is getting married on Halloween. None of us could understand
why he and his bride won't be using that as an excuse for a fun, casual
celebration. Yet, this will be a formal affair. Through all the wedding
stories, I felt bad for the guest whose boyfriend had so recently dumped
her. She smiled a forced smile and kept staring down at her now-silent
phone.
Turns out she's not the one whose feelings I should have been concerned
about. As we made our way to the kitchen for dessert (delicious cookies
I'd made from a Weight Watchers recipe, a homemade cinnamon roll, a
vanilla layer cake, and a cream pie with cherry topping), one guest
revealed that she is going through a rather painful and messy divorce.
The same women who not that long ago had been sharing wedding stories
now offered up advice about divorce. At one point, The Paper raised
her hand and asked, "Am I the only person here who's not on my
second marriage?" She wasn't, there being a newlywed in the room
as well as the newly single guest, who seemed to feel a bit more comfortable
as she heard other women's stories about breakups.
Many of us had both a sympathetic ear and good advice to offer, and
I learned something, as well. It might not have seemed it at the time,
but I realized how fortunate I'd been with both my own divorce and my
parents, both of which were amicable. How lucky I am, as well, to have
found a second husband who's such a perfect match.
At about 9 p.m., The Paper suggested we head out. She was driving and
tends to get tired early, since she gets up early each day. We said
good-bye to everyone and headed back to her place.
Incidentally, it had been raining off and on all night, but the rain
timed itself perfectly for us, both on the way there and the way back.
It was mild enough for us to walk to the car and accelerated while we
were driving, slowing down again as we exited the car.
I intended to go inside just to share the extra cookies, but as luck
would have it, I ended up staying and playing some Confed. I will write
about that another day. That story, too, involves a wedding. And, I
would soon learn, a bomb.